Reading the Mind of Others In Everyday Life

Many thought that reading minds is the work of a psychologist, psychic or healer. However, believe it or not, in everyday life, you all are a mind reader. Because, without the ability to know the thoughts and feelings of others, all of us will not be able to cope with social situations as easy as anything. By reading minds, we can make estimates about the person's behavior and enables us to determine the next decision.If we do this with a bad reading, the impact can be serious: the conflict could have occurred due to misunderstanding. Examples of real trouble recognizing the thoughts and feelings of others-mindblindness, can be seen in people with autism, which is the inability to be a disturbing condition.The ability to read minds, which is by William Ickes-professor of psychology at the University of Texas, referred to as empathic accuracy.Where did it come from?Ability (limited) to read our minds according to professor Ross Buck-Communication Sciences at the University of Connecticut, has a very long history. He said that, through millions of years of evolution, humans evolved communication systems become more complicated when life was also becoming more complex. Reading the mind then becomes a tool for creating and maintaining social order and as a help to know when to agree to a commitment with a partner or arbitrate disputes with neighbors.This capability alone appeared since humans are born. Newborns prefer to face someone other than the stimulus, and a few weeks old baby has been able to imitate facial expressions. In 2 months, babies are able to understand and respond to the emotional state of the caregiver. Nancy Eisenberg, professor of psychology at Arizona State University and an expert in emotional development, said that the baby is 1 year old adults were able to observe the expression and use it to determine the next behavior. He continued, infants aged 2 years were able to infer other people's desires from his eyes, and at the age of 3 years, the baby can recognize facial expressions of happy, sad or angry. At the age of 5 years, the baby already has the basic ability to read other people's minds, they already have a "theory of mind." Babies are able to understand that other people have thoughts, feelings and beliefs different from their own.The children had developed the ability to read minds by observing adult conversation, where they differentiate the complexity of rules and social interaction. In addition, play activities with peers can also train children to read the mind of other children. However, not all children can develop this ability. Children who experience neglect and abuse tend to have problems in developing the ability to read thoughts. For example, children who grew up in a family filled with violence, it may be much more sensitive to expressions of anger, although they did not appear angry emotions.Furthermore, the ability to read minds more advanced usually appears in late adolescence. This happens because of the ability to keep the perspective of several people at the same time-and then integrate it with our knowledge and the person concerned is-often require much brainpower been developed.BagaimanaMembacaPikiran?Reading body language is a core component of reading minds. Through body language, you can know a person's basic emotions. Researchers found that when people observe the gestures of others, they can recognize the emotions of sadness, anger, joy, fear, etc., even when the observation is only done with minimal lighting.Facial expressions are also a marker for us to be able to know what other people think. But unfortunately, many of us were not able to detect these expressions. One rich source of this marker is a person's eyes; muscles around the eyes. One's eyes are the richest source marker than other parts in the face. For example, when the sad eyes down, open wide when scared, it looks out of focus when being delusional, staring jealousy, or looking around when impatient.We can know the mind of another of the components in the conversation-the words, gestures, and tone of voice. But among the three, Ickes found that the contents of the conversation to be the most important component of a well read minds.Become a Mind Reader Ulung So, how can we be a better mind reader? Teams of Psychology Today has formulated some things that can help us to read minds.Get to know other people. "The ability to read minds would rise, the more we know the other person," said William Ickes. When we interact with someone for a little over a month, we will be easier to recognize what he was thinking and feeling. This can happen because: we are able to interpret the words and actions of others with more precise, after watching him in a variety of situations, and second, we know what is going on in their lives, and be able to use that knowledge to understand them in the context of the broader .Ask for feedback. Research shows that we can improve reading skills by asking the truth of our guesses. For example, "I have heard, it seems like you're angry. Is not that true? "Note the upper part of the face. False emotion, usually expressed at the bottom of a person's face. Meanwhile, according to Calin Prodan-professor of neurology at the University of Oklahoma Health Sciences Center, primary emotions can be seen from most of the top of the face, usually around the eyes.More expressive. Emotional expressivity likely reciprocal. Ross Buck, "the more we are expressive, the more we will receive information about the emotional state of others around us."Relaxed. By Lavinia Plonka, author of Walking Your Talk, a person tends to "make yourself" with his interlocutors through posture and breathing patterns. If you feel tense, you could have someone to talk to, unconsciously, being too tense and inhibited, and eventually it becomes difficult to read. Take a deep breath, smile, and try to show openness and acceptance to anyone with you.Critical Review. We need to remember, that expression of emotion can differ across cultures. Sad expression in one culture, may be interpreted as another emotion in another culture. So if you want to read someone, we need to also consider the cultural elements that prevail in the residence of the person, do not guess wrong, or even trigger a misunderstanding.We also can not rule out this mind-reading phenomenon as a normal phenomenon diasosisasikan with supernatural abilities, because contrary to belief, there are people who have the ability to read thoughts that are difficult to explain science. At least the author has found some people with the ability to read minds, which is even able to see the future and all sorts of things defies reason.